When a friend shares that she is unexpectedly pregnant, you may feel a mix of concern, love, and uncertainty about how best to help. It’s natural to want to provide answers, but often the most valuable thing you can offer is a steady, compassionate presence.
At Options Clinic, we provide free and confidential resources to help you and your friend navigate this important time. Schedule a confidential appointment today to learn more about how to support her.
Listen First, Speak Gently
Your friend may be experiencing shock, fear, or confusion. The first and most crucial step is to listen without judgment.
Let her share her feelings at her own pace, and resist the urge to offer solutions or opinions immediately. Simply saying, “I’m here for you, no matter what,” can mean more than any advice.
Respect Her Process
It’s normal to feel protective, but remember that this is your friend’s pregnancy and her decision. She needs time to think through her options.
Ask what kind of support would help her most. Maybe it’s accompanying her to appointments, helping with everyday tasks, or simply spending quiet time together. Respecting her autonomy communicates that you care about her and what she’s experiencing.
Be an Encouraging Presence
Consistency is powerful. Checking in regularly, sending a kind message, or inviting her for a walk can help her feel less isolated.
Even when you don’t know what to say, showing up reminds her she isn’t alone. Avoid pushing your own views; instead, encourage her to gather accurate information and take the time to decide what’s best for her life and future.
Connect Her with Reliable Resources
You don’t have to have every answer. Options Clinic offers free pregnancy confirmation services and information on your friend’s options. Our staff provides a supportive environment where your friend can ask questions and receive factual, pressure-free information. You are welcome to accompany her if she wishes.
Your steady presence can be a lifeline during this uncertain time. Schedule a free, confidential appointment at Options Clinic today to learn about available resources and ways to support your friend.
FAQ:
How can I start the conversation without making her uncomfortable?
Begin with openness: “I care about you and want to support you. How can I help?” This shows you’re available without adding pressure.
Should I give my opinion about what she should do?
It’s best to listen more than you speak. If your friend asks for your thoughts, share them gently and without judgment, ensuring she knows the decision is hers alone.
Can I come with her to an appointment?
Yes. If your friend wants companionship, you can attend appointments for moral support. At Options Clinic, we welcome friends and family who provide encouragement.
What if I feel overwhelmed myself?
Supporting someone through an unexpected pregnancy can be emotional. Take breaks when needed, and seek your own support so you can be a steady presence for her. Your presence can help your friend feel empowered and less alone as she considers her next steps.